Project Consent has a large community of survivors and supporters that have the opportunity to vocalize their beliefs to their own communities. We have launched our “Project Together” program in an effort to give these incredible supporters and survivors the chance to do just that: bring Project Consent to their own homes and host healing workshops.
Host one of these meetings wherever you feel most comfortable. Whether that be in your own home, your dorm room, a local coffee shop, or the park, make sure it is a safe space for you and for those joining. Feel free to bake some cookies or make some hot chocolate! Or, simply ask others to each bring a dish and make it a potluck. This can make the people attending feel more comfortable and show that the meeting is an open and safe space.
How to host:
Start with making sure everyone introduces themselves
Ask people to state their preferred name or what they want you to call them, and to state their preferred pronouns to avoid misgendering anyone
Make sure everyone answers an ice-breaker type of question
Ex: What is something that brings you joy? What is your favorite flower? How do you decompress? What did you eat for breakfast? (This question should make them feel comfortable opening up.)
Ask how the people want to run group/ what they want to do
What do you do when you are triggered?
What does consent mean to you?
What is your favorite way to cope?
What type of person do you want to be?
How are you able to be intimate with people?
What is something that helps make you feel safe?
Who do you go to when you need support?
Have people share what they want to, if they want to
Make sure to always state that this is a safe and judgment-free zone — that means no one will ever be forced to share anything. Sharing anything is completely voluntary, always.
Thank you cards/letters to survivors
Public survivors or anybody you can think of
Can be in conjunction with your school’s consent programs
A coloring book for survivors and supporters by Ryerson University
Writing a letter to your abuser
Destroying/burning it after might be cathartic, so give that as an option
Watch movies and have discussions
Some film recommendations:
The Tale (2018)
The Hunting Ground
Audrie & Daisy
The Invisible War
Boys Don’t Cry
A Book Club
Some book recommendations:
The Way I Used to Be by Amber Smith
Asking for It by Kate Harding
Yes Means Yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape by Jaclyn Friedman
We Believe You: Survivors of Campus Sexual Assault Speak Out by Annie E. Clark
The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir
We have provided a few different invitations for these meetings that you can use to send to your friends, put up on campus, or post on social media!
We cannot wait for you all to host these meetings at your own home, campus, or safe space. We want to encourage you all to reach out to us at firstname.lastname@example.org if you have any questions about hosting, or need any encouragement to host one of your own. Please also take pictures or videos of the event, submit them to us at email@example.com, and tag us on social media! We hope that by you all sharing, others will be convinced to host their own as well!