Posts in may 2018
AN OPEN LETTER TO MY ASSAULTER

Let this letter be a reminder that sexual assault is something that is carried for years. The scars of it are real and remain fresh. Let this letter be a reminder how crucially important consent is, and how much destruction intimacy without consent can cause. To the victims of sexual assault, let this be a reminder that you are not alone; there are others that are with you.

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WHY IS CONSENT FOR EVERYDAY TOUCH IMPORTANT?

As the #MeToo movement has taken off, conversations about consent have shown just how complex and nuanced the topic is. I think it’s time to have a conversation about consent pertaining to everyday touch. If we can learn to ask for consent in our everyday physical interactions, that can lead to easier conversations about consent in sexual interactions. By making permission a prerequisite for basic everyday interactions, we can make those of us who don’t like being touched way more comfortable, and make asking for consent in general second nature.

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SWIPE LEFT: FINDING MY ASSAILANT ON TINDER

I was told that what happened to me was just how men were. I was told that it was just his country’s culture. I was called a liar by my friend who’s room it happened in. She even brought him to my own room a week later, rolling her eyes as she told him that he needed to apologize for “hurting” me. And he did - he told me he didn’t know he hurt me and he was sorry but he was drunk. I couldn’t breathe as he spoke, let alone look at him more than two seconds. He believed there was nothing wrong. And he left as such.

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WHAT IT MEANT TO SAY YES TO MYSELF

The average age at which Millennials lose their virginity is 17.4 years old, which is on par with the average age for all generations. Abstinence-only sex education is unrealistic. Not only do kids not learn how to prevent STIs, HIV, and pregnancy, but other very important topics get lost, including proper consent, self-love and care, and benefits of self-pleasure. For me, not having proper sex education led to a lot of problems with me not loving myself.

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TEACH 'EM YOUNG: ONE STEP CLOSER TO ENDING RAPE CULTURE

So what can we do to change this? The obvious fix: teach them young. What if sexual assault and harassment - what they are, their consequences, their dangers - were part of sex ed curriculum? If we ingrained consent, respect, and an understanding of sexual assault into school lessons, we would not only reach our youth before the media could, but they would also be equipped with the knowledge of how pervasive and damaging rape culture is in our society. Our youth would be raised on the ideas of respect, boundaries, and consent. They wouldn’t be raised to be a part of it; they would be raised to fight against it.

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6 WAYS RAPE CULTURE IS PREVALENT IN OUR SOCIETY

Rape culture is everywhere, and those that can’t see it are one of two things: uneducated or turning a blind eye to it. It’s in our music, our movies, our day-to-day lives. It’s in the interactions we have, we hear, and we see. It was taught to us since we were young, even by the people we trust. To break rape culture down means that we, as a society, must first educate ourselves, recognize it, and call it out.

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